Children can play on their own if given a chance
The scene was only a beta test of a theory that I’ve had for years,
but it proved me right, even if only on a small scale.
On our Little League team’s practice field at Adams Elementary
School last Thursday, we played a modified version of a game called
“work ups.”
Friends Dave and Kathy Miller first told me about “work ups” a few
weeks ago, and I tried it right away. The kids loved the game and
have asked me several times to play it again.
I was a few minutes late to the last practice, but happy to see
that coach Mike Markovsky had already gotten things underway. Mike
pitched to the kids, and I dropped fly balls in left field.
After about an hour of kids playing kids, it was time for a
change. Mike and I were joined by Riley Schoneman’s dad, Jeff, to
make up a three-man team. We played a good crew consisting of Riley,
Justin Butler, Joshua Bowman, Courtney Ulrich, Andrew Tenno, Jeremy
Pearlman, Mike’s son Michael and my son Roy.
In the second inning, it was time for the kids to have someone new
pitch. Four kids stood on the mound discussing who should throw to
the dads. All four wanted to pitch, but they could not make a
decision. After about 30 seconds, they looked at me to make the call.
“It’s your team. You decide,” I said.
The call came again. “Coach, who should pitch?” Courtney asked.
“It’s your team, you decide,” I repeated.
In a matter of moments, they had a pitcher.
I’ve been concerned for a very long time that we are
over-regulating our kids at play. That little scene out there at
Adams told me that if I had the opportunity to test my theory on a
larger scale, kids would do just fine without adults in many
situations of play.
One place I’d like to test it is on the baseball diamond. Having
just finished my season commitment as an umpire for the Minor B
division in the Costa Mesa National Little League, I can safely state
that while we claim that we’re just out there to play and have fun,
the grown-ups often make that impossible.
Left on their own, kids will call their own balls and strikes and
“safes” and “outs.” Will there be disputes? You bet, but there are
disputes now -- just watch any Little League game. The difference is
that the most childish behavior on the diamond is exhibited by
adults.
The umpiring was difficult for me because I never got used to
seeing the worst come out of grown men and women in front of little
kids. In one game, a parent was sitting behind the backstop, riding
me on too many pitches. I let it go, partly because I can handle it
and partly because I know this jerk and confronting him would only
have been taking his bait.
Adults cannot be left completely out of the picture. Safety is
very important, and kids don’t have the benefit of our experience in
dangerous situations to know what to do to avoid injury. At Adams
last Thursday, for example, some kids were standing behind the batter
without equipment and had to be asked to stand behind the backstop.
Growing up in L.A. 30 or so years ago, there seemed to be a lot
more options for play than there are now. My friends and I had the
gym at Fairfax High School to play in on Saturdays. Just try and find
an open, unsupervised gym on a Saturday now. And when we organized a
football game, it was either a two-on-two battle in the street in
front of my house or, for larger games, a trip over to the football
field at Fairfax.
This was the big city, and the elementary and junior high schools
did not have grass, just asphalt. And even though that increased the
number of scraped knees and elbows -- more safety issues -- we wore
them as badges of honor. Those little injuries never stopped us from
finishing the game or playing in the next one a few days later.
By the way, except for the Saturday basketball sessions, the gates
at the schools were locked and we had to climb the chain-link fences
to get in.
Today in Newport-Mesa, you can still climb a fence to get on to a
field, but you will risk being asked to show your permit to use it.
If I’m ever asked for a permit, I know what I’d like to say, but
won’t:
“Permit? We don’t need no stinking permit!”
* STEVE SMITH is a Costa Mesa resident and freelance writer.
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